One of the things I found interesting is the way the specific word “love” is used throughout. There’s a sex scene with Sara and Jean where she is repeating, “My love, my love, my love,” then later when François reunites with Sara he refers to her with the same phrase. Did you feel any emphasis on the word “love” and how it was employed in the film?
I’m trying to how it came across because I don’t think it was that way in the script. It was only written once maybe, and then I kept repeating it. I was pulling from my own experience, because I had been through a situation like this in my early twenties—a triangle situation, with me and two men—and it was a nightmare. It was the worst time of my life, and I think it was the worst time for the three of us.
I think it pushes you to a place where there’s a huge metaphysical reflection about what it is, love. It becomes need and it becomes conflict. It becomes an unsolvable situation. It becomes guilt, it becomes anger, it becomes so many things.
To start with, it was just that aspiration of… you can call it love, but you can call it need, or you can call it being known, or you can call it surprise. So it’s just human beings having to live life. What is the connection between what you are having come into your life and your brain and your education? Trying to make sense of it is trying to deal with your needs. As actors, of course, we do that all the time, because we have to understand the need of the character as well as the conflicts of it.
Being put into this situation makes you think about love and what is not love. You could say love for Vincent’s character would be for him to say, “Yeah, go ahead. Tell your story. I love you. I trust you. If you need this, do it.” That would be love. But you can also say love can be, “No, you don’t have the right to do that. I want you. I need you. Please don’t destroy our relationship,” and that could be called love. So, there’s a moment you feel like, “Okay, what is love?”
I don’t know, but what you can say is the truth. What is truth to you? When you express your feelings, that’s a way of loving yourself and loving the other as well, because you are putting words on things that are incomprehensible and that are sometimes unreachable, but it doesn’t necessarily make sense. If you have the courage to go through that, I think you’re a hero.